" ... and forgive us our sins, for we ourselves forgive everyone who is indebted to us." Luke 11:4, ESV
Did you forgive?
Recently, a friend asked if I had forgiven one of my former superiors. Though tempted to dismiss her question, I decided to listen carefully. This woman loves me and cares deeply about my spiritual well-being. As she spoke I considered her words. After the conversation, I prayed about what she said and I asked God to reveal the truth about the situation. And, he did.
I had been sure that I forgave my ex-boss. Now I wondered. As I thought about it and prayed for clarity, I realized that I had held on to a piece ... the piece that related to the pain I had experienced in a situation. I had felt hurt. And I feared that letting it go would mean that I might get hurt gain.
I realized that this was about relational boundaries for me. Subconsciously, I had equated forgiving this person with the idea that I would open myself up to getting hurt again. You see, I like to restore relationships. And, sometimes I don't know how to reconcile and keep an appropriate guard up.
Once I saw the truth of this situation, and after much prayer, I chose to forgive - really forgive. Not just my ex-boss but others too. As a leader, I believe it is super important to live what we teach. I certainly encourage others to forgive. Now it was my turn. "Thanks friend! You helped me sort it out and let go."
How about you? Do you need to forgive someone? What's holding you back?